I’m a sinner.
Despite being a genuinely good person at heart, I’ve certainly sinned during my lifetime.
I am imperfect.
I was at a party my Sophomore year in college. It was at my roommate’s friends’ house down the street from ours, off-campus in the old Greek Row. I had been drinking, but wasn’t drunk. I was most definitely high, though, because my roommate was a stoner musician. I mean she played a wind instrument in the orchestra, not the drums or guitar in a grunge band or something, but still. And well… I was high. But not crazy-high. Just happily buzzed. The typical mellow, no worries, chilled, isn’t-everything-so-awesome-and-interesting kind of high. I didn’t really know the people who lived in the party house, but they seemed cool. Nice. Musicians also. Artistic. I was a Theatre major and I loved being around “that scene”.
At some point I wandered off from the group hanging out on the back porch and in the kitchen, and into the living room. There was the stereo blaring The Ramones. No one was around. I stood in front of the speakers looking at the cassette tapes (uh huh, 1988. Hey, at least they weren’t 8-tracks). Probably 100 of them. Without so much as even looking around to see if anyone was watching me, I picked up three of them and put them in my coat pocket. They were three I wanted but didn’t have. The only one I still remember was Sting, “The Dream of the Blue Turtles”.
So I put these three tapes in my pocket very nonchalantly and turned and walked over to the couch, sat down by myself, put my head back and listened to the music. I smiled to myself because I had just stolen these tapes, and I didn’t care.
Now Nancy Reagan would have said it was the pot stealing my soul. It altered my thought-processes! It brought out the demons in me!
Nah. I’d always wondered what it would be like to steal something. Small, you know. Not grand-theft auto or bank robbery or anything. But I had always been a good girl, and I wanted to do something “bad”. The weed simply lifted the veil of morality that separated me from my inner bad-chick. And honestly, it kind of felt awesome.
I walked around that party the rest of the night occasionally putting my hand in my coat pocket touching the tapes. I had a little secret and I liked it. Plus, they honestly had at least 100 tapes in there, they’d never miss these. And they’d never in a gazillion years suspect lil ol’ me.
The next morning I woke up not with a hangover so much as a fog. We didn’t get home til almost 4 am, and I woke up around 7:30 and I was just…tiiiiirrrrreeeeeddddddd. I sat up in my bed, reached for the litre of Pepsi next to my bed (you know, dry mouth from all the reefer) and guzzled half of it without breathing.
It was FREEZING. I think it was February. My room was in the back of the house, and it was basically an enclosed porch. I’m almost positive there was no insulation of any kind in that room. It slanted significantly downward and to the right toward the back, with some paneling semi-nailed into some 2 X 4’s comprising a closet and old, dingy dark brown carpeting covering the floor. I loved it.
My coat was laying at the end of my bed. I reached over and put it on, got up to go to the bathroom, grabbed a piece of plain white bread from the kitchen and shoved it into my mouth (pathetic excuse for delayed-munchies junk food) and got back into my bed under the covers shaking violently. I put my right hand in my right coat pocket and felt something hard.
My eyes opened real wide, and I pulled out the tapes. What the…what???
Uh oh. It all came back to me. I was a thief. There was Sting in all his tantric glory.
I didn’t feel guilt right away. I felt confused. I remembered taking the tapes while being of “sound mind”. I knew it was wrong when I did it, but I did it anyway. I made a conscious, if not slightly altered, decision to steal them from my friend’s friend. Yep. I sure did. I put them under my bed and put my hand back under the covers until I stopped shaking and started to fall asleep, I’m pretty sure with a slight smile on my face.
The next day was Sunday. Me and my roommate went out for lunch. We got back to our house and watched some TV. Laid around. Studied some. Just a lazy day. At some point mid-afternoon, she got a phone call. She went into her room to take it and I went back to my room to find a book.
When I came back out she said, “That was Mike. He’s so pissed off. He’s calling everyone to find out who stole his shit. Give me a break”.
“What shit?” I asked.
“I don’t know, some tapes. He’s so uptight.” she said shaking her head.
And I just shrugged my shoulders and sat down.
We both had our feet up on the Salvation Army coffee table, on top of the “Juggs” magazines we kept there as a conversation piece. (Four girls lived in our house, all of us artists in some form or another, and we thought it was hilarious that we had four copies of “Juggs” as our coffee-table books. Very weird, yet still damn funny to me). And it hit me. Um, I had done something bad. And now I was feeling bad. I had to return them.
“You know what?”, I said as if I had just remembered something, “…wait a minute”. And I got up and ran to my room. I reached under my bed and put the tapes back into my coat pocket. I went back into the living room with my coat and reached into my pocket in front of her.
“Some guy at the party asked me if I wanted some tapes, and I obviously said okay, because I found these in my pocket yesterday and forgot about them”.
“Whoa!” she laughed, “Seriously? Some guy at the party gave those to you?”
“Yeah, really. Some guy sat down next to me and asked if I wanted them, and I said uh, okay, and he gave them to me.”
“Holy shit! I have to call Mike!”
“Yeah”, I said, “I have no idea who he was, I just thought he lived there and was flirting or something and gave them to me. And then I forgot about them. He was pretty wasted. But yeah, they’re obviously Mike’s. So tell him I have them and I can bring them over to him. Tell him I’m sorry, but I had no idea they weren’t that guy’s”.
Oh my God. I was making so much shit up on the fly…and I was freaking out. But I was an Acting major, so I tried very hard to utilize my training to cover my very-guilty-sorry-thieving-ass.
She called Mike. She came out of her room and her face looked surprised and she said, “Wow, he’s pissed and he’s coming over here right now!”
“What?! Pissed why??” I innocently asked.
“He thinks you stole them!” she gleefully yelled.
“What?! Oh please. Why the hell would I steal those? I have a ton of my own tapes. And I wouldn’t do that!”
“I know! I told him that but he doesn’t believe me!”
Oh. My. God. Now this guy who I didn’t know at all was coming over to what…beat me up for stealing his tapes?!
He only lived around the corner and within a couple of minutes he was knocking on the door. I was cool. Very nonplussed. On the outside.
The tapes were sitting on the coffee table on top of the April issue of “Juggs”. I thought if he saw them there he might be distracted from wanting to kill me.
He came in and said directly to me, “What the hell, man? Why did you steal my tapes?”
“Hey, I didn’t steal them. Some guy gave them to me and I was pretty stoned so I didn’t think much of it and forgot about them until you called here. So here they are, sorry.” I ushered his gaze toward the Juggs with all the zeal of one of The Price is Right showcase girls.
“Well this is only two of them. Where’s the other one!?”
“I have no idea what you’re talking about. I don’t have another one. These two are the only ones he gave me”.
“Bullshit. Where’s the other one?” He was kind of menacing now. And it pissed me off.
“Hey, look. He gave me two and these are them.”
“What did this mystery asshole look like?” he asked sarcastically.
I thought very quickly and decided giving him the “bushy-haired stranger” description would be too obvious a lie, and at lightning speed I ran through the guys who I remembered being there so I wouldn’t describe any of them.
“I hardly remember. He was blonde. That’s about all I remember.” That description fit roughly 85% of the guys there that night so I felt sure I wasn’t pinning this on anyone in particular.
“Whatever, man. Not cool!” And he grabbed the tapes and left.
My roommate stood by the door with her mouth open and said, “What an asshole! He’s always been asshole, man…I’ve never liked him. Ugh.” She came and sat back down next to me.
I was completely and totally freaked out. I’d never stolen anything before in my life and I was wracked with guilt. He knew I was lying. It was good to hear that Mike was not highly thought of, that kind of lessened the guilt, but not by much.
My roommate completely believed me, because she knew I wouldn’t steal stuff. That is what made me feel instantly horrible. We laughed about it, all the while I was feeling bad on the inside. My parents had raised me better, and I was a very good girl.
I went to my room soon after to take a nap. I sat on my bed, reached under my mattress and pulled out…Sting.
So here was this crazy guy coming over to a girl’s house to accuse her of stealing his stuff, a guy who wasn’t digging “Juggs” (what’s up with THAT?) and…knew I was lying.
Still, I kept Sting. What was wrong with me? Had I turned to a life of hard-core crime? Was MaryJane really the gateway drug Nancy had been preaching against all these years?
WHY had I kept Mr. Sumner’s tape?
You know what, to this day I’m not sure. Except maybe at the time I was thinking, “Hey, if I’m going to get caught I don’t want it all to be in vain. He can’t prove I did it…”
And maybe because a little part of me still wanted to feel “bad”. A little rebellious. A little ballsy. Push the envelope a little. I laugh to myself as I write this…yeah, a REAL little. What a bad-ass. Are you rolling your eyes along with me?
I still have “The Dream of the Blue Turtles” in a tub in my basement.
I’d never stolen anything before that night, and I never have since. Well, not long ago I walked out of the gym with one of their towels. I had simply forgotten to throw it in the bin when I was done and had left with it absent-mindedly. I brought it back the next day – after washing and folding it.
I heard the song “Russians” on the radio the other day, and here I am telling the tale of my inner-outlaw.
I don’t feel guilty about it anymore. I’ve done a lot of other worse, though not intentional, things in my life.
It was just one of those things that I did…maybe as proof to myself that I could take a risk and get away with it. It was stupid and not right. It was wrong.
But…is it bad that I don’t really regret keeping it?
Eh. I blame the weed.
Wow – what an honest opening! We all are sinners, but who just says it! I’ve never heard of “the pot stealing the soul” … but I wouldn’t call it that anyhow.
I remember seeing some jeans on the line at the block of flats I was living in. They were really unique, maybe from America, and I just WANTED THEM. I took them in with my washing, as if they were mine. But over the next day I knew I could never wear them, never could I be seen in them. And at night, I put them back on the line. I’m not an angel, it was just the guilt I would have had – and someone KNOWING it was me, I was wearing their jeans.
A great post – made me think! :)
Words, some sins are worse than others, right? I’ve at least lived long enough to know parsing sins is allowed. :) That’s such a great story, about the jeans. Sheer desire and the ability to balance out the consequence with the action… If you couldn’t wear them, it just wasn’t worth it. It makes me laugh though to think of you walking around and someone seeing you wearing their jeans. How do you really deny that? A woman KNOWS her own jeans, sort of like knowing your own skin. It’s a very personal affair, a girl’s jeans. I don’t think men would understand. Thanks so much for the comment.
An interesting read my friend…
perhaps you would care to journey
into my dark world of scripting? :)
Just bring along some garlic chewing
gum, a wooden mallet and some very
sharp stakes… Other than that you
should be quite safe, well maybe? :)
Have a wickedly fine rest of day,
and an exquisite evening my friend :)
Androgoth, thank you very much. I appreciate your comment and am glad you found my foray into “the dark side” interesting. It must seem a little tame to you, but we all gotta start somewhere. :) You have a very interesting site with very interesting reads also. My son saw me looking at it and he yelled out “Cool!”. Thanks again for the comment.
I seem to recall some of my tapes coming up missing. I am really starting to wonder now.
Ha! You should wonder Tom. But alas, the only one I have is from The Dells. You’ll have to look at the rest of the posse for the others. Someone out there has “the tape” from your Linden place. But it ain’t me…hmmm.
I have long ago given up on the infamous “Party Tape” as it came to be known, but if you still have The Dells tape, you need to get someone to put it in a digial format before it is lost forever.
Don’t give up. Never give up.
How can I do that with the Dells tape? It’s not Industrial Light & Magic over here you know. :)
This is a great story, thanks so much for sharing it with me! There must be a reason you kept the Sting tape? Your “inner-voice” obviously has great musical taste! I never had Dream of the Blue Turtles on cassette. I had it on vinyl, it was the last Sting album I did actually purchase on vinyl. I was rummaging around an old vinyl shop a few years ago and there must have been 50 Dream of the Blue Turtles vinyl records for sale. It made me laugh. I still have my original though, so no need for me to steal one!
Kathy, that’s very cool you had it on vinyl. Yes, I kept Sting because I loved him. Still do. One of the best concerts I’ve seen was Sting/Don Henley at Alpine Valley in the early 90’s. “Save the Rainforest” concert I think, something like that? They were both great. Sting holds a special place in my heart not only because his music helped define my youth, but also because I stole him. I’m sure he’d be pleased to hear that, don’t you? Love your blog, and thanks for posting!
a truly entertaining post…and very funny…am I guilty of corresponding with a common criminal? and whassup with some of those the lead stories in that issue of Juggs…pregnant paps??? yes, i perused it carefully, unlike that Mike guy. trust ur still enjoying the “tantric Sting”. continue…
Criminal, yes. But common? Come on. God, I know…Juggs. I’m not even sure what a “pap” is supposed to mean in that context. Glad you enjoyed it, Bark!